If You Mind Your Own Business Then You Won’t Be Minding Mine -Hank Williams
Do you ever feel like people are judging your actions? Often times people become so preoccupied with the opinions of others that it limits their potential in any given situation. Making people feel bad for their personal decisions is selfish and completely immature.
I am finding out that people who are unable to mind their own business are most likely internally miserable. They seek to find faults within others just to make themselves feel better. Offering insight to a friend whose present situation seems distressed can be helpful at times but there is only so much advice you can give without pushing the limits. Even if you don’t agree with what someone else is doing sometimes, you need to take a backseat and let them make their own mistakes.
Here are just a few of the ideas I am going to try to stick to:
- No one asked for my advice. Except in the rare instance when people specifically ask me for help clearing their clutter, raising their children, or deciding their program design, I should keep my advice to myself.
- I don’t know the whole story. It’s very easy to assume that I understand a situation and to form a judgment when in fact, I understand almost nothing about what’s happening.
- It doesn’t affect me. A friend was all worked up about something a celebrity did – she was really, truly annoyed. I wanted to say, “You don’t know this person and you’ve never even seen her in person. Why let yourself get so upset about something that has no possible effect on you?” And I remind myself of the same thing. I recently asked my boss “Hey what do you think about all of those Supreme Court decisions? His answer: “None of them affect me. My life goes on…” Hmmm….
There are people in your life that will always have your best interest at heart, so it is important to value those opinions. However, often times there are people in your life that seem to be on your side, but when push comes to shove, they will judge you harder than your worst critic. These people are detrimental and will relish in your shortcomings while continuously pointing them out every chance they have.
This week’s quote: Sometimes the people around you won’t understand your journey. They don’t need to, it’s not for them