Recently my mom and I were going to church and she asked me to look out the side mirror to see if anyone was behind us. I startled myself….I didn’t recognize my own face! Now I know I have told this story before….but it happens more often than not that I don’t recognize myself or others don’t recognize me. So that got me wondering, what do I really think about my body image?
Many people think body image is only an issue of people who are stereotypically thin, or who have an eating disorder but the truth is that body image has nothing to do with one’s size. It has to do with how you see yourself, what you tell yourself about yourself, how you describe yourself, and how you feel and think towards your body-all work to create your body image.
People’s body images do not develop in isolation. We are influenced by those around us and our culture. Families and friends convey to us positive and negative messages regarding our bodies continuously – virtually as soon as we are born. Studies have shown that children brought up in families where parents enjoy physical exercise and explain the benefits of being physically healthy tend to have a more positive body image, compared to those who are criticized for the way they look.
I work out 6 days a week and have to realize that will be be more body changes the more I spend time exercising. But I guess I’m not ready. Really it makes nervous sometimes….Real Talk.
The attention I have gotten has been significant and scary. It also made me angry that now people are much friendlier and open to me. I am still the same person, but now somehow I am worthy. CRAZY! About four years ago I went out with a guy a couple times and he finally told my cousin I was too fat to fit in his new car. And at that time I thought I looked pretty good! I saw him this spring and he told me I looked great and would I like to have dinner. I couldn’t believe it! “Nope” I said, “Now, my fat ass would never sit in your car!” Oh yeah and by the way, now he can’t fit in that car! HA!
Change is difficult…but change is good. People underestimate their capacity for change. There is never a right time to do a difficult thing.
Quote for this week: Your life doesn’t get better by chance, it gets better by change.